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What is it about home renovations, which - more than anything except possibly pregnancy - seems to prompt so many people to give so much unsolicited advice?

You know what? I'm a big, grown up girl. I know more or less how much money I want to spend. I know how much I'm prepared to do myself and how much I can expect (or pay) others to do. I HAVE a contractor who has done two big jobs for me before: both on time, on budget, and very skillfully done.

So please will you just STFU about "you should..." and "you ought to..." and "why don't you..." and "oh, no, you don't want..." Because I DO, and I DON'T, and I KNOW, and if it all goes wrong it'll be MY problem but there probably wasn't a hell of a lot I could have done to prevent it that I haven't already done, and it's MY house and MY money, and I'll bloody well do what I like with it!!

And if any of you dares to chime in with the "you should..." and "you ought to..." I'll bloody well cut you off my flist. So there.



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Jul. 6th, 2010 04:03 am (UTC)
*Resisting the temptation to tell you you should tell them all to go renovate their own houses!*
Jul. 6th, 2010 04:05 am (UTC)
Jul. 6th, 2010 08:07 am (UTC)
Hee, hee! That's a good one.

I do wish I felt grown up though. Whenever I have to organise anything in the way of practical work I just feel hopeless and stupid. :(
Jul. 6th, 2010 03:01 pm (UTC)
I actually find the various floor/drywalling/paint or whatever guys themselves quite easy to deal with - I just tell them I'm completely ignorant and they get to tell me the pros and cons of various things and then I decide.

It's everyone _else_ who is driving me crazy! Someone will say "have you chosen a floor" and I'll say yes, it's this... and they'll say "oh, dear, that seems very expensive, why didn't you..." or "oh, wood is so much more sustainable" or "you shouldn't put that kind of floor there" or "why is your contractor doing it THAT way; you should tell him..."
Everyone seems bent on making me feel like I'm being cheated or misled, when in fact I trust my contractor and my own instincts about things. But it feels like everyone will be just thrilled if it all goes terribly wrong and then they'll be able to say "I told you so"
Jul. 6th, 2010 05:56 pm (UTC)
I think the key thing is what you said about having a contractor that you've used before and that you trust.

We have finally found a chap who will do odd jobs. So far he's felled a tree and re-hung the side gate. He did a good job both times, so I feel more confident now about identifying a job that G and I can't do and letting him get on with it.
Jul. 6th, 2010 09:32 am (UTC)
yep ... seeing as how I'm currently ready to do the same ...

Were your ears burning yesterday?
Jul. 6th, 2010 02:54 pm (UTC)
heh - I saw that you and gillo had lunch: lucky things.

Good luck with _your_ home buying and inevitable home improvements! I promise not to give you too much unsolicited advice ;-)

Edited at 2010-07-06 03:02 pm (UTC)
Jul. 6th, 2010 09:35 pm (UTC)
We said only the nicest possible things about you! Sometimes physical distances can be so annoying.
Jul. 7th, 2010 02:47 am (UTC)
Jul. 6th, 2010 09:34 pm (UTC)
Oh dear. I hope I didn't perpetrate any of that.

Looking forward to seeing the end result -
place made to
Jul. 7th, 2010 02:47 am (UTC)
Heck, no - and thanks; I look forward to seeing my place made my way too ;-)
Jul. 15th, 2010 11:16 pm (UTC)
Fell better now? We've only just found a handyman that we like...it took 15 years. And a plumber. The latter led us to the former. Nice to have people you can work with!
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